i was particularly struck by this amazing quote today. (for your information, i subscribed to this daily famous quotations which are emailed to me - free of charge, of course)
more so because during lunch, i had a conversation with my close friend and she was sharing that the most annoying traits which she sees in her daughter are her own. but that does not stop her from scolding the kid whenever she acts up.
so i told her that i've read somewhere that the most annoying traits which we find in others are usually inherent within us. we could not get rid of them, and when we see them in others, they irk us more. (well, that is my theory, at least).
our interactions with others are basically the mirrors of our real selves. we could not run away from our reflections - we could dupe the projected image with our outer presentations, but when we are tense or provoked, our inner selves will show their true, bona fide reflections.
but my friend said "i do love myself...", yes, we do. i do too - without trying to sound so self-important. hehe.
although, we do not normally love ourselves, when provocation and stress come in.
when these happen, Gaze Inwardly. 'why am i reacting this way?' or 'what did he or she say or do that hurt so much?' and we correct ourselves. at least, we make the effort to. and whatever we find within, we must love ourselves, anyway. :)